Next Wednesday I graduate from one stage, the diagnostic stage to the next stage, the treatment stage of my breast cancer. This stage starts with surgery, unless you count the needle biopsy I had since technically, they removed cancer cells to do it. (See, I’m healthier already.) Other than knowing that I have three appointments with three different physicians the following week, I don’t know what the steps will be after surgery. That’s because the surgery is part treatment and part assessment. And I suspect that a lot of medical treatment is like this, that in treatment more information is gathered and this informs successive treatment decisions. That’s what my job is like as well.
I cope best when I have concrete and active things to do and when I am able to rest and take care of myself. I am running out of these steps before I hit another misty patch of ambiguity. I’ve also finished the big pile of work that I needed to get completed during my last two weeks’ work marathon. Now I’m tired and my to-do list is not entirely clear. I find myself starting to get into “what if?” territory. “What if” I get radiation and I’m one of those people who gets fatigued for years afterwards. I wonder if my hair is long enough to give to Locks of Love if I end up having to get chemotherapy? If it were, then some good could come of cutting it rather than just waiting to lose it all. I think you get the picture.
So this started a couple of days ago and here is my plan to nip it in the bud:
1) I’m going to meditate for 10 minutes today after I finish this blog entry.
2) I’m going to stay off of the computer tonight to help me get a good night’s rest.
3) I am going to list all of the steps of cancer diagnosis and treatment that I have already completed so far. Even though I didn’t start out with a full check list, these are still steps I have gotten through and represent forward progress:
I have completed:three mammograms, 2 ultrasounds, 1 needle biopsy, 1 MRI, 2 blood draws, testing for the BRCA genetic mutations, and two results phone calls. All of this has entailed 6 trips to Swedish in the span of less than 5 weeks. Not too shabby. Lots, lots, more items will be coming to my to do list, but I’ve definitely made progress past square 1.
We were going through mom’s belongings and came across a wedding photo of you & John. You two looked SO gorgeous! And you looked great with short hair, so I think you’ll look beautiful whatever you decide to do with your hair.
Aww.